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75 REAL tips on how to be a Man

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We have grown a bit tired of the bullshit buzzfeed lists and half-hearted meme wisdom -

Together, RUSTIN COBURN — we offer a new kind of list, to present a fresh and hopefully thoughtful, look at what it really means to be a man today, and some applicable tips to restore your testosterone. Many of the points below are inspired by other articles we have read, while most of them are our own thoughts and beliefs.

  • Stop talking about where you went to high school or college. No one cares.
  • You will never get a job based off your resume alone, learn how to present yourself in real life and forget about what your pedigree says. At the end of the day, its just words on paper – learn to sell yourself.
  • Always carry cash, use it to tip your bartender you cheap asses – at least $1 every drink, every time. Take care of the people who take care of you.
  • If you can’t afford to tip – stay home.
  • Own Pets you aren't ashamed of.

  • Well-kept Converse are a very suitable replacement for dress shoes when styled correctly. Understand when it’s appropriate.
  • Never stay out after midnight three nights in a row … unless something really good comes up on the third night.
  • Never date an ex of your friend. And, If you have a friend that dates your ex – he was never really your friend.
  • Time is too short to do your own laundry.
  • When the bartender asks, you should already know what you want to drink.
  • When in doubt, ALWAYS kiss the girl.

  • Clean your car before you go on a date! If you cant take care of your car, how can you be expected to take care of a girl.
  • Spend the extra money on sunglasses, watches, and ties.  Superficial? Yes, but so are a lot of the women out there judging you. Take time to appreciate nice things and be responsible enough to not lose them.
  • Be comfortable taking at least one cold shower a week. It teaches you self-discipline, and helps remind you that are not a pussy.
  • Enjoy a good Sunday brunch with friends at least once a month.

  • Be a regular at a dive bar close to home.
  • Act like you’ve been there before.  It doesn’t matter if it’s in the end zone at the Super Bowl or on a private plane.
  • Don’t get cheap haircuts. Spend the extra money and get a proper shave at least 3 times a year as well. And go to a real barbershop where they bust your balls.

  • Learn how to gut a fish. With a knife.
  • Never take "selfies" – Aspire to experience photo-worthy moments in the company of a beautiful woman.
  • Own a handcrafted shotgun.  It’s a beautiful thing.
  • There’s always another level. But always understand that you are still better off than most who have ever lived.
  • Becoming “RICH” is a moving target that you can never achieve. Do not base your decisions around financial gain, but instead around the quality of your life and the relationships involved.
  • All the money in the world doesn’t compare to having a beautiful girl on your arm. Focus more on her – and less on money.

  • You can get away with a lot more if you're the one buying the drinks.
  • Never split a check.
  • Pretty women who are unaccompanied want you to talk to them.
  • When a bartender buys you a round, tip double.

  • Piercings are major liabilities in fights. So are untied shoes.
  • Buy a tuxedo before you are thirty. Stay that size.
  • One girlfriend at a time is probably enough.
  • Real men do not LOL, and please - #StopItWithTheHastags
  • Throw parties. 
But have someone else clean up the next day.
  • Measure yourself only against your previous self.
  • Take more pictures.  With a real camera.
  • When you have kids - make sure they know how to protect themselves.

  • When you truly admire the work of artists, writers, and musicians - tell them. 
And spend money to acquire their work.
  • Staying angry is a waste of energy.
  • Always bring a bottle of something to the party.

 Preferably whiskey.
  • Avoid that “last” whiskey. You’ve probably had enough.
  • Your clothes do not "match" - they simply go together.

  • Date women outside your social set. You’ll be surprised.
  • If it’s got velvet ropes and lines, walk away unless you know someone.
  • You cannot have a love affair with whiskey because whiskey will never love you back.
  • If you believe in evolution, you should know something about how it works. Actually, if you believe in ANYTHING, you should know how it works.
  • Never take an ex back. She tried to do better and is now settling with you.

  • Going to movies alone is Amazing. Learn to enjoy yourself when alone.
  • Ignore the boos when they come from someone in a lower tax bracket. Pay attention to them when coming from someone in a higher tax bracket.
  • Don’t gamble if losing $100 is going to piss you off.
  • Never Ever Play the victim.
  • Learn the rules of croquet and bocci, play both frequently.
  • Fighting isn’t cool... but defending yourself, your friends, or your girl will never go out of style.

  • Honesty, really is the best policy.
  • When choosing what cologne to buy – always let the girl pick, and stick with it.

  • Have a group of men in your life that you can really trust to call you out on your bullshit.
  • Go to Church.
  • Make your own decisions.
  • Be a broken record when communicating what is important to you. In business – Life, Relationships, Children, etc.
  • Exercise at least 5 times a week.

  • What you say really does matter. Choose your words wisely, especially when talking to a female or child.
  • Always have a consistent Mentor in your life that you can go to for advise.
  • Surround yourself with friends that are smarter than you are.
  • Clean up your facebook profile. You mom and employer don’t need to see you ripping bong hits.
  • You are not your fucking khakis. Where you work and what you wear have very little to do with “who you are”.

  • Know how to tie a good knot.
  • Know how to swim.
  • Know how to drive a stick-shift.
  • Know how to wear jewelry properly.

  • Whenever you can, support small business: from auto repair shops, to tailors, to grocery stores.
  • Drinking tap water will not kill you.
  • Drinking fancy beer doesn’t make you cool – but drinking a good whiskey does.
  • Do something uncomfortable at least once a week.
  • Do something nice for a stranger at least once a week.
  • Learn the names of your neighbors. Get together with them at least once a summer.
  • Own a good leather jacket.

  • Learn how to tell a good story. Your children and your grandchildren will appreciate it.
  • Holidays are more about giving than receiving. Look to serve your community on large holidays when the need is at its highest.
  • Always make sure your daughter knows how beautiful she is.
  • Going hunting is awesome – bragging about going hunting is not.
  • Travel as far as you can, for as long as you can, as often as you can. Not to learn more about the world, but to learn more about yourself.
  • Know how to ride a motorcycle.

  • Read at least a book a month. Avoid the self-help section. That section is for women.
  • Learn to act like the most confident man in the room, while understanding you are no better than anyone else
  • Be Humble.
  • Always treat the woman you are with like she is the most beautiful girl in the room.
  • Under Promise – Over Deliver.
  • Don’t be afraid of confrontation, it’s is the only way we grow.
  • Life happens so fast… don’t wait for tomorrow to begin to live it.

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*originally inspired by business insider "list of manliness"